Has anyone had symptoms not recognized by a GP (i.e late diagnosis) or even internet searches?

hi,

i’m a gay male in my early 20s. i’ve had issues with hemorrhoids since my late teens, but mostly external ones. lately, though, i’ve had some pain internally, and am not sure what the problem is. for some reason i’m scared that i have HPV. i’m normally very safe (have had maybe a couple risky encounters, none recently). i’ve heard that genital warts to not hurt, and the problem that i have is causing me pain, particularly when i go to the bathroom.

i want to go get tested, and to have a doctor take a look and make a diagnosis. i called a few clinics but they said they don’t do hpv screenings for male patients. is this something i can see a regular doctor about if i go in for a check up?

i’m freaking out about what the problem is and what my next move should be.
there is a larger, hemorrhoid like lump externally, and 1 or 2 smaller bumps internally, all of which become aggravated and cause a little pain when i go to the bathroom.

Is there a difference between a malignant tumor and cancer? or does malignant basically mean cancerous? im a little confused

My dad was taken into hospital with bowel problems…things have been a little fuzzy since then. No one’s telling me anything…so im guessing the diagnosis was bad =/ I only know what i know from listening in on my mum when she thinks im not and when i saw her mouthing stuff to my aunt…At first she was just saying he had an obstruction in the bowel. Then i saw her mouth to my aunt that they think its malignant.
I know a little about tumors as my little sister had a benign meningioma in the brain a few years back, thats how i recognized the word malignant…as they were trying to figure out what my sisters was at the time….but anyway she was ok after they removed it.
i hate that my mom isnt telling me anything…
Could you shed some light for me on the situation or what you know about bowel cancer/tumors
I know my dad has been having bowel pattern problems…he’s been going really late at night, several times…and i think he had some blood in his stool =/ ive been looking up bowel cancer all nite and it seems to be the case….any advice? x

So I think I may have a hemorrhoid. It’s not a bump, but it’s very tender and is on my anus. I heard that hemorrhoids can be under your skin too…? The thing is, I’m not very good at talking about [embarrassing] health matters with people, especially my doctor. I want to tell my family too, what do I say??? Also, I want to avoid spending money on treatments if I can help it. If I can avoid it, I would like to get a diagnosis here and learn about some home remedies [if it is a hemorrhoid.] Thanks!

This is embarrassing, but…. I have tested positive for herpes through a blood test, but I have never had an outbreak. My problem now is that I think I may have hemorrhoids (mostly internal), but I’m worried that maybe it is anal herpes instead? I have never had anal sex, but I have heard that you can still have an anal outbreak regardless.
For a few months now, I have seen a little bit of blood on the toilet paper when I wipe, but it has always been a small amount. There have been a couple of little tears now and then, so I figured that was the cause of the bleeding. I have had itching too.
The past few days, my symptoms have been a little worse. I’m not sure why I initially decided to do this, but I took a mirror to the bathroom and held it so that I could see my anus as I was pushing out. A couple really swollen looking and bright red things come out past my anus, and go back in.

I forgot to mention that I have been taking a diet pill, for about a month. I have been having diarrhea, but it started after I started taking the pills, so I think its related to just that. I say this to point out that I have not been constipated, so I haven’t had to push too hard to go to the bathroom. However, now that I see the swollen looking red things that come out, I feel like I am having to push harder because It feels like I need to push extra to get the stool to go past the red things. I know this is kind of gross, but I took a couple of pictures (clean) in case I can send them to someone to help with a diagnosis. I’ve been reading and it seems like my symptoms can fall under anal herpes, hemorrhoids, and even inflammatory bowel disease. Please help!